Moving Beyond Fears
Moving Beyond your Fears
People engaged in co-empowerment need to be willing to be emotionally vulnerable, supportive of themselves and others. A working relationship of trust and support is vital. This opens the possibility of gaining personal power/insight and reaching potentials unavailable to us as individuals.Building this synergy can create irresistible ideas that by their formation spread and affect culture.
The Beyond your Fears technique will take you through 5 stages.
- Discovering Passions: What is it the motivates you? What do you care deeply about? We explore passions, central to empowered identity, thru directed questioning.
- Identifying Obstacles: Fears are what hold you back. To break through them you must first identify them. Helpful allies direct you to identify your fears in detail and depth.
- Develop your Empowered Persona: Describe a new better you, who has moved past or through these fears and is manifesting their passions. What are the different characteristics in this new you not yet present in the current you?
- Role Play: What situation intensely stimulates your fears? Design with your allies a role play which puts you right into your weaknesses, and play repeatedly until you can act as the empowered version you have created of yourself.
- Bridge: What have you learned about yourself by playing this better version of you? How do you take that with you and integrate it into your life? How do you serve something larger than you with this power?
Questions to help discover passions
What do you long for in your life?Allies question Seeker about desires in their lives that have remained elusive.
If you could have one thing in your life that isn’t there now. What would it be?
If you only had a year to live, what would you desire to leave for future generations?
When have you been most inspired? What were you doing or what was happening?
What are you willing to fight for or risk your current comfort for?
What makes you angry?
Questions to Identify Obstacles
What fears block you from attaining your desires?Allies inquire into specific fears and defense/avoidance mechanisms.
What keeps you from going after your desire?
What frightens you the most about this situation?
What would you do if your fairy godmother granted you this desire?
Where do you feel helpless about attaining this?
What is the most common critique of you by those who know you most intimately?
What do you see that you do to keep this away?
How do you sabotage your desire?
Developing an Empowered Persona
Allies will help the Seeker identify what being in their power would look like.What would the outcome of the situation be?
What tools do you have available to use?
What behaviors would you embrace to stay in your power?
What is your new mantra (short memory sparking phrase) to help you stay connected to your empowered person?
What kinds of indicators will show that you are moving out of your power?
Developing the Play
Once the Allies have a clear sense of the desire, the fear and the post fear persona. They will develop, with the guidance of the Seeker, a fear restimulating situation. For example, if the fear is of being abandoned by an intimate, the role play might be that the Seeker is being told by a doctor that their mother is dying or that their lover is leaving them.
At least one Ally will do the role play with the Seeker, getting directions about the role they need to play in order to stimulate the greatest fear in the Seeker.
The Allies also, using the Seeker’s self described post fear Persona, help the Seeker step out of defense/avoidance mechanisms, see where they are still in their fear and encourage them to stay connected to their power.
Performing the Role Play
There will be two role for the Allies during this time. One Ally will participate in the role play with the Seeker. The Seeker will flesh out the specifics of the role play and passed onto the allies any pertinent information about their part in the play. Pay attention to subtleties such as feeling tone (is it more fearful for the Seeker if the participating ally is angry? sad? distant?). The Seeker will take a moment to let themselves become as immersed in the scenario as possible.
They will play out the scene as they likely would if presented with this situation in their daily life.
After having played the scene once, they will evaluate their actions/reactions look for places where they were moved by their fear and any places where they were in their power. Allies will also give feedback. The Seeker will continue to repeat the role play with evaluation and feedback after each repetition. The Allies will use the information gathered from the Seeker to help them discern those places where they are still acting in their fear and those places where they are behaving according to their own definition of power in this situation.
The Allies will check in regularly with the Seeker to make sure their place of power has not shifted because of the role play. It may be that the seekers ideas will change as they play the role repeatedly.
The role play will be repeated until the Seeker has, to their own satisfaction, acted from a place of power in the situation.
Making the Bridge
Now that you have a glimpse of yourself in a more powerful place, take some time to see how you can build bridges back to your current life. Explore tools or reminders that will help you remember this new persona. Be gentle on yourself when you slip back into old habits by appreciating that you noticed the behavior. Try playing out with friend the most recent situation until you are again in the place of power.